Many people drawn to CP have unresolved issues from their youth that they carry around with them. This baggage can weight heavily but a lot of issues can be dealt with through the use of counselling and therapy combined with CP. An example of this can be found further down the page.

One very effective tool that I use frequently is roleplay. Through roleplay, the person is able to regress and act out their fears and problems (and deal with them) without self-consciousness. This must obviously be handled very carefully but, having a PhD in psychology, I often find myself providing counselling and therapy during sessions. This is obviously not something that just anyone can provide, but is something in which I have both training and experience.

It seems very sad to me that so much guilt is carried around, affecting every aspect of peoples' lives, when it can be dealt with effectively and quite easily. A lot of people feel they did something that was not addressed or they were not punished for. Other people feel resentment or discomfort with experiences they feel were not resolved. I am not saying that CP is a panacea, but it most certainly is a cathartic and stress-relieving experience.

Some people also carry a lot of guilt about their fetishes and have nobody they can discuss these with. Fetishes do not go away; they are an inherent part of the psyche. It can therefore help to talk to someone who understands, knowing they need have no fear of being exposed in any way.

If this sounds familiar to you, then do please contact me and we will discuss whether or not I feel your specific problem might benefit from roleplay and CP.

Luke's Experience

I had been to see Lady Pandora a couple of times and found our spanking sessions to be fun and an education. This was someone whom I could easily share my deeper thoughts with. I also discovered what a wonderful actor she is; her Matron Vicky character was someone I could really believe in.

I plucked up courage to ask for a Real Discipline Slippering. I had never had to suffer this as a child but am old enough (born 1963) for this to have been a socially acceptable discipline option.

I went home and thought about an incident when I deserved a real punishment. I settled on the occasion when I was about 11 when, through my own carelessness, I could have caused serious injury to my Grandmother & cousin.

I also remembered that my parents wanted, on a few occasions, to administer sensible physical punishment, but for their own good reasons were unable to do so. I remember that this inability to discipline effectively caused tension in their relationship.

I put all this information into a letter and included an imaginary scenario where my parents had asked Matron Vicky to discipline me on their behalf.

At the start of our session we chatted over a cup of tea and I said that I never have had any real punishment CP and I was curious about it. Lady Pandora explained how for some people a good spanking can bring closure for past misdemeanours; like putting events into a black bag and putting them out for the dustmen.

I had almost finished my tea and I handed Lady Pandora the letter that I had spent months pouring my feelings into. Lady Pandora read it and said "That's fine". Five minutes afterwards Matron Vicky appeared in her blue uniform.

"Well, do you know why you are here?" Matron Vicky asked. I replied that I didn't, expecting this to be followed by a lecture about the trouble I had caused. But to my surprise Matron carried on in a firm yet gentle way by saying that she new it was not very nice at home at the moment. I replied that it was not nice at, all remembering moments in my past when the atmosphere was terrible. She went on to say that this was because my parents had lost control of me and that from now on she was going to be in charge.

I could not argue because deep down I new that she was right. Matron went on to say that there was a particular issue that needed resolving and that she was going to do it by giving me The Slipper. I could not resist her calmness and, as instructed, I took off my trousers. As I positioned myself over her lap I asked her not to slipper me hard, to which Matron gently replied that she would decide how hard a punishment slippering would be. At last, I thought, someone who will stand up to me.

I first received a few smacks with the hand on the seat of my white cotton y-fronts, the style I used to wear when I was a kid. These were followed by a few smacks to the exposed parts of my thighs. Then the back of my underpants were lowered and I began to feel the slipper on my bare bottom.

A few minutes later I was allowed up and the punishment continued with me bent over a desk. I was saying ouch after each of the whacks, but I managed not to try to protect myself.

Matron pointed out that I had been punishing myself for years over these events. She was absolutely right. How awful I felt about myself. These were mere pats compared to what I wanted to do to myself. But I did not need to do anything now because I had given the problem to Matron. I gathered together all my courage and asked if Matron was angry with me. Matron replied that she wasn't. At last, she was giving me the loving and caring physical discipline I had always dreamed about and longed for.

So it is really possible to love boys even when they have been naughty. And yes, it is also possible for me to love Matron even as I am receiving a spanking from her. I proved this to myself as I got up and gave Matron a huge hug. "You are really not angry?" I asked again. "No, I just love you enough to smack your bottom" came the reply.

Bending back over the desk for the final instalment was a joy because it was purging the guilt I felt for more than 30 years and because I knew for sure that discipline given in the right way can be a loving experience.

On the journey home, I imagined that I had returned to my Grandmothers house. My Grandmother knew what had happened to me without anyone telling her. She was that good a Grandmother. I imagined that she had just given me a knowing glance and said go on indoors. I have just poured you a cup of tea. Then I just wanted to cry.

What have I gained from this session? In writing up the scenario I thought about my parents difficulties and it made it easier to understand their point of view. I can let go of some of the hurt that is there. At last I have forgiven myself. The memory of the suffering I had caused my Grandmother has been healed. I still remember the events but they no longer hurt and I do not have to shut them away. The one aspect of my wonderful relationship with my Grandmother where I did not have peace has been reconciled.

Lady Pandora is a very experience adult disciplinarian and also an accomplished psychologist. She was able to give me a very different experience to adult spanking fun. My bottom was a good deal less sore than had I had a traditional session. But this session was really about a healing of the mind. An experience that I am profoundly grateful for.

Lady Pandora Replies

I have known Luke for some time now and have been aware that he did not have a good relationship with his parents, particularly his Mother. I could see that Luke still carried a lot of guilt and confusion around with him and that this had a detrimental effect on both his health and his outlook.

Luke spent a long time ensuring he had given me all the information and background I needed in order to try to deal with one particular problem. When he arrived he was naturally nervous and we sat and talked about what we would try to achieve before we started.

Luke is a very sensitive person and feels things deeply. The fact he was always told he was bad instead of having someone differentiate the deeds from the boy did not help. We addressed the issue in a way that allowed him to regress to the time it happened. In this way he was able to feel he had made full recompense for his thoughtlessness and he could then resolve the issue.

Luke cried and this was a very positive sign. It showed I had found the correct emotional triggers that allow this most cathartic response. I explained to Luke that, now he had made atonement for the issue, he could put it away in a room in his mind and lock the door, as it would no longer weigh on his mind - it had been dealt with. It will always be there, but now he will be able to view it as a not so pleasant memory, but without the burden of guilt he has carried for so long; he can take it out when he wants to and think about it, but then he can put it away again.

We will have further similar sessions to deal with other issues.

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